also:

at the opening of our last show, lea said to me "your work is so devotional". she meant it as a very high compliment. this made me feel understood in a way that was unexpected. even to me. i didn't know i needed to be understood in that context until i was. at dinner the other night, she held my hand and kissed my face. it was such a wonderful moment of connection. later, i asked my sweetheart if he got a kiss from lea too and he said "yes. she's absolutely wonderful!"